Feature Friends— Jarris Neufeld

I had the honour and privilege of having the first time on feather and mane history of sharing a feature friend that is a male! thats right folks, branching out, putting our big girl pants on and talking with Jarris was definitely a highlight of my 2017 blogging life.

Jarris and I know each other through my husband, but with the help of social media I feel like I never lost touch of what he was up to.

He has graciously shared what keeps him going and what his life lessons have been in the past few years. You do not want to stop reading! Also Did I mention we have a giveaway?!check this out.

What do you do to earn money to live?

I Work for VSSL, but I love building custom tables (find me on Instagram for more details)

What would you like to share on the blog?

When Carla shared these questions, I really wanted to share what its like to be an authentic parent during this transition into single parenthood.  It is interesting to say the least. Grace is needed, patience gets stretched constantly. But overall I want to constantly remind myself that I want to be present in my kids lives. I want to keep looking towards the end goal of being in an authentic relationship with my kids. Sometimes its hard to see that during the short term stressors, the long term is way more important!

What is your heartbeat, life giving moments?

The quiet moments with my kids. Bedtime is such a fun time, we can connect cause we are in such close proximity. We get to look back on the day together, and set the tone for the dreaming phase of the day.
Other days, the hectic morning drives are key. We get ready together, rush, sing in the car and embrace this stage of life together.

Something that you want to inspire others with

I want to share with you about “graceful exits”. This has been hitting me Huge lately, with even as small as changing jobs, relationships, daily tasks. Graceful exits are key to a lot of life situations. Something I try to remind myself when I am transitioning, maybe for example leaving a job, I am very excited for the next stage but I want to make sure I am being smart with how I am acting in my setting while exiting a situation. How I respond, how much I share, how I need to stay in the present even though whatever comes next might be thrilling.  You need to always finish well, be present, and make sure you are honouring those around you.

How do I move to the next phase of anything.

1. step back and take a broader perspective of what is old, present and new.
2. Being present in the moment. Currently where your at. Being able to be there. ie. Switching jobs, Finish strong, don’t be so caught up on what is happening next, what is happening next will still happen.
3. Patience… just patience.
4. BE HUMBLE! Keep your head down and keep working hard. Honour those who are staying.
5. TIMING- share with the right people. Be respectful of everyones feelings as much as possible.

Why did you say yes to being interviewed?

Its super fun, I like the community of Abbotsford and the connections. I am A Huge Connection guy! I love the connection of Human beings.

What other things are you passionate about?

I loveWater-skiing, cross fit, ( they are like a family to me!,) My goal is to be a part of Worlds in 2019


  1. like this post!

  2. you can also enter to win on our instagram and facebook page!

  3. Comment and maybe share what kind of outdoorsy things you like to do and how this would be helpful or just plain awesome to have!

Contest closes March 8th, and winner will be ANNOUNCE HERE! on March 9th.


This contest is for EVERYONE.


Is It Worth The Calories?

Sometimes I catch myself mentally figuring out the calories I am eating and thinking about how much physical work that would be to burn it off( I know, sounds unhealthy). My healthy weight and lifestyle has been a struggle. I had two high risk pregnancies, and than with that I tried my HARDEST to lose weight the “healthy” way ( exercising and eating cleaner).  I finally, after much convincing and nudging I sought out help from a Naturopath. It has been a year, 70 lbs lost later. I know I should be super excited, AND I AM! believe me, I am almost what I was in high school.

So what am I sharing.

Now that I have spent the last 42 days in a low cal, hormone injection food restriction (I hate using the word diet). I am left with feeling super uneasy about carbs, constantly making sure I am not gaining weight for what I ate the day before, and nervous about what I should eat and when.

This has nothing to do with who I went to see, the naturopath has been amazing, supportive and so great with fielding my questions. I would see them on the regular if I had benefits for days. BUT unfortunately I need to figure some things out on my own.

What I am trying to be okay with right now.

  1. It’s okay to feel this way, I just need to learn what to do next without diverting back to bad eating habits
  2. I don’t need to snack while looking at a screen. I can not believe how hard it is to not do this! it is a habit I tried to break so many times. so I have tried my best to drink teas, or coffee or a fruit while watching or working.
  3. I need to find a more sustainable way to live. a healthy way to view food, exercise, and maybe realize that i am getting older and some food isn’t worth how it makes me feel in the long run.
  4. ALSO I love this post from Vancouver nutritionist CristinaFeatherandMane(50of108)


I am so thankful for this past year and what I have learned about myself, healthy habits, and what I am truly wanting in life. I want to be able to run with my kids, play in the park and go down slides without being too large (I did this today! so fun), and make sure my hormones, vitamins, and long term lifestyle changes that can make me the person I truly want to be. I don’t want to be a size 2, I want to be me.


have any tips for me? would love supportive, positive comments! and if you want to collaborate over a blog post with healthy resources in the area let me know!


— Carla


Change, you can’t hide from it

I feel like I am in a blur. Each day is full, needed, constantly deciding what trumps what. And through all of this I have had to make the hardest decisions of my life.

This past month I shared with my Church Family that I am resigning from my position as Youth Pastor. I am not going to lie, this has wrecked me. I have so many emotions and as a positive glass half full kind of thinker it has been ridiculously challenging to see through this. I love my youth, leaders, church, and have known for the longest time this was where I needed to be.

God has plans for your life, to prosper, not to harm, plans to give you a hope and a future. I really relying on what God has in store for me and I am so thankful for my faith in something greater than myself.

Brad and I are so thrilled to finally launch his small business (Onboard Coaching), and with that launch, comes scheduling conflicts, babysitters, deciding who has priority in certain situations, etc etc.

I am also so thrilled to of been a part of the church community, but i constantly am looking forward to seeing who will be blessed to have youth ministry at Bakerview as there next mission! I know God has big plans, and at this moment, this position would be an amazing job to have, participate in molding, vision casting and shaping the future of this beloved church.

I have so many things on my mind, and I wanted to get this out before more questions are asked, more emails, texts, gossip, whatever comes.  here are some of the FAQ and answers

  1. where will you be working next? are you going to be a SAHM?
    1. answer: I am currently looking for a job, part time, 20ish hours a week, close by with evenings free. so if you have any leads?!  I would love to be a stay at home mom, but we have finances, and new adventures i need to help support.
  2. do you want to work in ministry again?
    1. MORE THAN EVER! I love youth ministry, church ministry and still feel called into this field. At this moment, I need to give my husband space to grow, network and develop his business (6ish months?) and than i can maybe look into this avenue again
  3. Where will you attend church?
    1. I don’t know yet, we haven’t decided what our future plans are.
  4. are you moving?
    1. no, i love this question. I am not moving.
  5. what can we do to support you?
    1. We need grace, patience, all the fruits of the spirit. This is a huge decision time for us, so we are trying our best to walk the line of gracefully exiting and sharing our excitement with what is happening in Brads life. We would love support in just sharing well this news, being our friend, bringing a meal during this month while we both balance work life and work life haha.

Thank you for everything! this Feather and Mane community has been incredible. I love sharing life with all of you!

what is happening in your life?! i would love to hear from you


Carla Thiessen



In honour of Jessica’s 10 year anniversary we will be doing a GIVEAWAY! Enter to win a free entry to our ladies night in. We have swag bags, food, drinkies, a modern calligraphy craft and a few other items! How to enter

1. Like, follow and tag a friend who would want to join you!

2. Go to our website and comment on a blog post or page for an extra entry

3. Extra entry could also be following and commenting in our Facebook page. .


Must be able to attend event 🙂






Keep it Simple

Minimalism. things my eyes are drawn towards…. Sometimes we just need to let our eyes explore beauty without consequence, inspiration in the brain.

What are you drawn towards? what colours? textures? themes?


Thank you Unsplash. you are the best.


— Carla


Ladies Night in with Feather & Mane


Come join us for a Ladies Social Art night. Using the art of Modern Calligraphy, each lady will walk away with a beautiful piece of art and the beginner tools to pursue Modern Calligraphy on their own. Each participant will get a short lesson on the “rules” of modern calligraphy and how to use the tools given in class. Over delightful conversation, short mini lessons, and amazing food each lady will leave the evening with a framed piece of art as well as the desire to continue pursing Modern Calligraphy and the information on how to do so you can pay cash (if you know us personally or email featherandmane@gmail.com) or you can pay with pay pal on through here! limited seating available so act now before its full

MARCH 9th 7-9:30 PM in Abbotsford (details upon purchase of where event will take place)

when purchasing ticket please fill out all details so we can email you a confirmation 🙂


Sign up HERE!


Garbage in, Garbage out

I often go through an outer body experience when I am sitting on the couch, watching netflix, with some sort of carby food in one hand, and some sort of sugary drink in the other. I mask this thought with “I deserve this” or “today was so crappy, I need to relax and unwind”. When in reality, this doesn’t help you at all! You fall asleep later because you never let your brain process the day, and your stomach is full of items way to close to bedtime. Than you wake up feeling gross, saying you’ll do better this time, only to shove some leftover m&m’s in your mouth during your morning coffee because you were trying to intermittent fast. Anyone else? I feel like I am not the only one.


When we shove garbage in daily (food, movies, content on phones, sitting with bad postures, losing confidence cause the sweatpants come on ASAP after the day) we will feel like Garbage daily. Sure we can indulge every so often, but what does every so often mean to you?


I remember talking with my husband about special occasions, and when we were trying to figure how often we could have a certain item, and than we were like yeah on special occasions. Well there is literally a special occasion every week, let alone bi-weekly at least.  We crave short term rewards, but don’t realize how much it affects us long term.


What is your health worth to you? Are you where you ideally want to be? I am not saying size 2, eat like a rabbit, and work out 3 hours a day. My Ideal is honestly 20 lbs away, and more toned for sure (I don’t know how to measure muscle mass lol). I also want to stop craving sugar! So I am constantly buying smart sweets and berries, trying my hardest not to cave into milk chocolate and swedish berries.  Because the other aspect is, DO YOU KNOW WHAT’S IN YOUR FOOD!  ( I won’t get into this, because its a whole other blog post for sure).


So here is my goal for you (and me).

  1. If you are struggling to discover the best you, you can be, SEEK HELP! You are important, you are worth being healthy, happy, and confident you. I know this costs money, but maybe you should look at where your money is going and shift it. I noticed for myself, when i asked my significant other it was a huge game changer in our marriage. He shared with me in a kind way that he wanted better things for me and it worked! I am motivated, I still make mistakes, but I am seeking help through naturopath and continually learning more about my body and what it needs to thrive.
  2. Write down in one day what you eat, when you eat, what you watch, what you do, how you respond to people around you, who you spend time with. Than look at it later and think, is it something you want to be?  Are your decisions smart for you? Then check your phone settings on usage, you can see how much time you spend on different apps, and hours you spend and when you spend time on it. Are you happy with this?
  3. Your body changes as you age. THIS WAS A HARD ONE FOR ME, in highschool, i would think about a muscle, or weight and it would happen overnight. Or I was in better shape because my lifestyle was sports and activities. So when I had my second child, my body shifted its needs, how it reacted to certain foods, and I even had to realize that exercising doesn’t always work if your body isn’t ready for it. So be sure to learn your body.
  4. If you have any questions, or want to talk to someone I am here! I would love to chat with  you about healthy living and the journey to a garbage-less lifestyle. I am nowhere near perfect, but i am learning and would love to share my findings.


How are you feeling? Let us know!


Carla Thiessen

Feather & Mane


Photo credit – JuliaBe Photography


The best is yet to come…

We have been silent on this blogging platform, BUT we have been busy working behind the scenes to bring you something great come January (hopefully mid month Launch).  You have all been such faithful followers and friends and we are very thankful for all your comments, likes, shares and support.

With that, we are just beginning this awesome journey of moving forward in this blogging world.

Our main goal is to make sure we are sharing, blogging, using this platform and social media with Purpose.

the content is intentional

the Blog will be rich in words, stories and truths

the sisters will be present (not just on instastories if you haven’t started watching those yet)


I will leave you with this. The best is yet to come.

Jessica (left in both photos) and Carla (right in both photos and in life)

instagram @featherandmane

Facebook page and profile Feather and Mane




4 tips to get you outdoors, did you guess number 3?

A few weeks ago,we left the hustle and bustle of our regular day and met up with the two beautiful ladies behind Namaste Hiking Co.we spent a magical evening going on a brisk hike up Mt.Thom and while enjoying some quiet moments at the viewpoint, we sipped some amazing tea and had some delicious snacks. It was so calming to engage as a group in yoga ( despite Carla’s giggles and special poses). Here are some ways to get outside more often,

1. Find like minded friends – it’s so important to have one or two friends who are interested to get you going. Maybe similar lifestyles to be able to work around schedules or bring kids into it.sometimes this is hard, so maybe try social media platforms to see if there are any interests in your “friend” circles (facebook, instagram, bloggers,twitter,pinterest,linkdin?)

2. Start small– you don’t need to do the Grouse or Abby grind as soon as you have the motivational explore the outdoors. Just try out something close to your place,even a nice walk like the fort-to-fort trail.

3.find something that is organizedNamaste Hiking Co. was such a great intro to organized yoga as well as hiking.they have multiple types of explorations and you should check them out ! Let us know and we can be your new hiking buddies.

4.It’s all in your head- you need to understand every time you tell yourself you can’t, it really means you won’t. You need to start with your mentality and go from there. Believe you me, I am not perfect and constantly set ridiculous like,it’s to what I can and can’t do. You won’t become an outdoorsy person if you don’t try and say you can! Or find someone to keep you accountable.

We really enjoyed going on this little excursion and look forward to the many social media meet-ups! please check out Namaste Hiking Co!


Carla and Jessica


The Blogger Recognition Reward


blogger recognition award

We would Like to Thank Amanda from My Lovely Crazy Life for nominating us for the Blogger Recognition award. We have been casually blogging for the past few years but have just recently been taking it more seriously and finding so much joy in the process.

A Brief Story on How The Sisters behind Feather and Mane Started Blogging

Carla and I (Jessica) started Blogging as a way to share our experiences, both good and bad, of our parenting journey. We wanted to create an honest and fun place for people to take a break in their day and read about the beautiful Chaos that we call our lives. We have recently found our niche and are starting to become more focused and intentional in our posts. Loving family adventures and supporting the community around us by investing our time and money into the events and small shops has been a source of joy and interest for both of us. We are excited to see what a little bit more dedication and a lot more balance will bring to our blog.

Feather and Mane’s Advice to a New Blogger

  1. Take your time. Do not rush. That being said, don’t be too slow. Find your niche and share it with the world. Do not be intimidated by pushing the “publish” button on a blog post. Your words are worthy to be read!
  2. Take Lots of Pictures. People will love what you have to say but they will be more likely to read your post until the very end if you add a lot of relevant Pictures to share with your post.
  3. Network. Put yourself out there. Do not just hide behind the Keyboard. Join local blogging events. Go out for coffee with other bloggers. Join support groups and meet others who have the same passion as you. It is not a competition. There is room for everyone. Everyone is unique and no two blogs are the same. Be confident in your niche and own it! Make friends and enjoy the whole process.

Feather and Mane’s Blog Nominees

  1. creative wife and joyful worker
  2. Jane and Shelin
  3. Bethany Menzel
  4. This awkward Mom
  5. Jenna Liesch
  6. the loud introvert
  7. Dear Loves Blog
  8. we are the Johns
  9. Adventurous Mama
  10. oh my dear the blog
  11. the adventures of mom and I
  12. Loving Local 
  13. Lovely Blond Closet
  14. Relationship Project
  15. Adrienne Neufeld

Rules Of the Awards

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  • Write a post to show your award
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started
  • Give pieces of advice to new bloggers
  • Select 15 other bloggers you want to give this award to
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them and provide the link to the post you created.

blogger recognition award


Thank you again Amanda for the Nomination. Keep spreading the Love and go check out the blogs I follow and share the Love!


-Owl and Lion