Keep it Simple

Minimalism. things my eyes are drawn towards…. Sometimes we just need to let our eyes explore beauty without consequence, inspiration in the brain.

What are you drawn towards? what colours? textures? themes?

 

Thank you Unsplash. you are the best.

 

— Carla

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Ladies Night in with Feather & Mane

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Come join us for a Ladies Social Art night. Using the art of Modern Calligraphy, each lady will walk away with a beautiful piece of art and the beginner tools to pursue Modern Calligraphy on their own. Each participant will get a short lesson on the “rules” of modern calligraphy and how to use the tools given in class. Over delightful conversation, short mini lessons, and amazing food each lady will leave the evening with a framed piece of art as well as the desire to continue pursing Modern Calligraphy and the information on how to do so you can pay cash (if you know us personally or email featherandmane@gmail.com) or you can pay with pay pal on through here! limited seating available so act now before its full

MARCH 9th 7-9:30 PM in Abbotsford (details upon purchase of where event will take place)

when purchasing ticket please fill out all details so we can email you a confirmation 🙂

 

Sign up HERE!

Garbage in, Garbage out

I often go through an outer body experience when I am sitting on the couch, watching netflix, with some sort of carby food in one hand, and some sort of sugary drink in the other. I mask this thought with “I deserve this” or “today was so crappy, I need to relax and unwind”. When in reality, this doesn’t help you at all! You fall asleep later because you never let your brain process the day, and your stomach is full of items way to close to bedtime. Than you wake up feeling gross, saying you’ll do better this time, only to shove some leftover m&m’s in your mouth during your morning coffee because you were trying to intermittent fast. Anyone else? I feel like I am not the only one.

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When we shove garbage in daily (food, movies, content on phones, sitting with bad postures, losing confidence cause the sweatpants come on ASAP after the day) we will feel like Garbage daily. Sure we can indulge every so often, but what does every so often mean to you?

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I remember talking with my husband about special occasions, and when we were trying to figure how often we could have a certain item, and than we were like yeah on special occasions. Well there is literally a special occasion every week, let alone bi-weekly at least.  We crave short term rewards, but don’t realize how much it affects us long term.

 

What is your health worth to you? Are you where you ideally want to be? I am not saying size 2, eat like a rabbit, and work out 3 hours a day. My Ideal is honestly 20 lbs away, and more toned for sure (I don’t know how to measure muscle mass lol). I also want to stop craving sugar! So I am constantly buying smart sweets and berries, trying my hardest not to cave into milk chocolate and swedish berries.  Because the other aspect is, DO YOU KNOW WHAT’S IN YOUR FOOD!  ( I won’t get into this, because its a whole other blog post for sure).

 

So here is my goal for you (and me).

  1. If you are struggling to discover the best you, you can be, SEEK HELP! You are important, you are worth being healthy, happy, and confident you. I know this costs money, but maybe you should look at where your money is going and shift it. I noticed for myself, when i asked my significant other it was a huge game changer in our marriage. He shared with me in a kind way that he wanted better things for me and it worked! I am motivated, I still make mistakes, but I am seeking help through naturopath and continually learning more about my body and what it needs to thrive.
  2. Write down in one day what you eat, when you eat, what you watch, what you do, how you respond to people around you, who you spend time with. Than look at it later and think, is it something you want to be?  Are your decisions smart for you? Then check your phone settings on usage, you can see how much time you spend on different apps, and hours you spend and when you spend time on it. Are you happy with this?
  3. Your body changes as you age. THIS WAS A HARD ONE FOR ME, in highschool, i would think about a muscle, or weight and it would happen overnight. Or I was in better shape because my lifestyle was sports and activities. So when I had my second child, my body shifted its needs, how it reacted to certain foods, and I even had to realize that exercising doesn’t always work if your body isn’t ready for it. So be sure to learn your body.
  4. If you have any questions, or want to talk to someone I am here! I would love to chat with  you about healthy living and the journey to a garbage-less lifestyle. I am nowhere near perfect, but i am learning and would love to share my findings.

 

How are you feeling? Let us know!

 

Carla Thiessen

Feather & Mane

 

Photo credit – JuliaBe Photography

The best is yet to come…

We have been silent on this blogging platform, BUT we have been busy working behind the scenes to bring you something great come January (hopefully mid month Launch).  You have all been such faithful followers and friends and we are very thankful for all your comments, likes, shares and support.

With that, we are just beginning this awesome journey of moving forward in this blogging world.

Our main goal is to make sure we are sharing, blogging, using this platform and social media with Purpose.

the content is intentional

the Blog will be rich in words, stories and truths

the sisters will be present (not just on instastories if you haven’t started watching those yet)

 

I will leave you with this. The best is yet to come.

Jessica (left in both photos) and Carla (right in both photos and in life)

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Facebook page and profile Feather and Mane

featherandmane@gmail.com

 

4 tips to get you outdoors, did you guess number 3?

A few weeks ago,we left the hustle and bustle of our regular day and met up with the two beautiful ladies behind Namaste Hiking Co.we spent a magical evening going on a brisk hike up Mt.Thom and while enjoying some quiet moments at the viewpoint, we sipped some amazing tea and had some delicious snacks. It was so calming to engage as a group in yoga ( despite Carla’s giggles and special poses). Here are some ways to get outside more often,

1. Find like minded friends – it’s so important to have one or two friends who are interested to get you going. Maybe similar lifestyles to be able to work around schedules or bring kids into it.sometimes this is hard, so maybe try social media platforms to see if there are any interests in your “friend” circles (facebook, instagram, bloggers,twitter,pinterest,linkdin?)

2. Start small– you don’t need to do the Grouse or Abby grind as soon as you have the motivational explore the outdoors. Just try out something close to your place,even a nice walk like the fort-to-fort trail.

3.find something that is organizedNamaste Hiking Co. was such a great intro to organized yoga as well as hiking.they have multiple types of explorations and you should check them out ! Let us know and we can be your new hiking buddies.

4.It’s all in your head- you need to understand every time you tell yourself you can’t, it really means you won’t. You need to start with your mentality and go from there. Believe you me, I am not perfect and constantly set ridiculous like,it’s to what I can and can’t do. You won’t become an outdoorsy person if you don’t try and say you can! Or find someone to keep you accountable.

We really enjoyed going on this little excursion and look forward to the many social media meet-ups! please check out Namaste Hiking Co!

 

Carla and Jessica

The Blogger Recognition Reward

THE BLOGGER RECOGNITION AWARD

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We would Like to Thank Amanda from My Lovely Crazy Life for nominating us for the Blogger Recognition award. We have been casually blogging for the past few years but have just recently been taking it more seriously and finding so much joy in the process.

A Brief Story on How The Sisters behind Feather and Mane Started Blogging

Carla and I (Jessica) started Blogging as a way to share our experiences, both good and bad, of our parenting journey. We wanted to create an honest and fun place for people to take a break in their day and read about the beautiful Chaos that we call our lives. We have recently found our niche and are starting to become more focused and intentional in our posts. Loving family adventures and supporting the community around us by investing our time and money into the events and small shops has been a source of joy and interest for both of us. We are excited to see what a little bit more dedication and a lot more balance will bring to our blog.

Feather and Mane’s Advice to a New Blogger

  1. Take your time. Do not rush. That being said, don’t be too slow. Find your niche and share it with the world. Do not be intimidated by pushing the “publish” button on a blog post. Your words are worthy to be read!
  2. Take Lots of Pictures. People will love what you have to say but they will be more likely to read your post until the very end if you add a lot of relevant Pictures to share with your post.
  3. Network. Put yourself out there. Do not just hide behind the Keyboard. Join local blogging events. Go out for coffee with other bloggers. Join support groups and meet others who have the same passion as you. It is not a competition. There is room for everyone. Everyone is unique and no two blogs are the same. Be confident in your niche and own it! Make friends and enjoy the whole process.

Feather and Mane’s Blog Nominees

  1. creative wife and joyful worker
  2. Jane and Shelin
  3. Bethany Menzel
  4. This awkward Mom
  5. Jenna Liesch
  6. the loud introvert
  7. Dear Loves Blog
  8. we are the Johns
  9. Adventurous Mama
  10. oh my dear the blog
  11. the adventures of mom and I
  12. Loving Local 
  13. Lovely Blond Closet
  14. Relationship Project
  15. Adrienne Neufeld

Rules Of the Awards

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  • Write a post to show your award
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started
  • Give pieces of advice to new bloggers
  • Select 15 other bloggers you want to give this award to
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you have nominated them and provide the link to the post you created.

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Thank you again Amanda for the Nomination. Keep spreading the Love and go check out the blogs I follow and share the Love!

 

-Owl and Lion

Parenting and Relationships

Life brings with it different seasons. Living in the beautiful province of British Columbia I am reminding of just how different each season can be. The frost that covers my car on a cold winter morning always leaves me longing to feel the summers sun on my face. The hot, sticky, sleepless summer nights cause me to dream of the cold cozy winter evenings cuddled around a fire drinking hot coco. Spring flowers and fall leaves remind me that transition is in the air and that with each season new adventures are on the horizon.

I was under the impression that Parenthood would only just be a season and not actually the “world changer” that it truly is. I entered motherhood innocently going about my life without acknowledging that my whole outlook off this world had and would be,  completely altered. This wasn’t a season. This wasn’t something that would pass or fade away like the sun as it sets. This was a permanent state of mind and being. I was and will forever be a Mother. Even when my children are grown and living on their own or even when they have children of their own, I will be a Mother. If, heaven forbid, I outlive my children, I will still stay a Mother. I will be a Mother until my very last breath.

Realizing that Motherhood was now a huge part of who I was, I started to recognize what kind of impact it was having on those around me. I started to evaluate my marriage and my friendships and how they were surviving this “New Me”.

My husband and I have been together for 15 years and have known each other for 20.   I always considered our relationship indestructible. If I had to pick a material that our relationship was made out of it would be Titanium. (That is strong right?) The point is, that we had been friends for so long our foundation was stable and taking a blow like “parenthood” wouldn’t do much damage. In the first few months my theory stood to be true. But the thing is, everything will crumble eventually, if not taken care of. I noticed that my husband started to feel left out. I was home all day with our sweet baby and our little one was falling more and more in love with me. The two of us, mother and son, were bonding and he would react instantly to my touch and my voice.  My sweet husband was the only man in my life up until the moment my son was born, and now this little bundle of soggy diapers was taking over all of my time. Instead of greeting him at the door with a hug and tons of questions about his day. He would be greeted by a sigh of relief and a cry for help as I yelled down the hall for his hand in changing a diaper that just exploded all over the car seat.

Parenthood changed our marriage. That was plain to see. We were no longer just two kids doing life together and playing it all by ear. We were now two adults with another human being we were responsible for. Date nights were scarce and adventures were few. Right when we were figuring out a good routine with our little man, we got the news that our trio would soon become a quartet. With each mile stone our children reach we have had to readjust and find our balance. We are not too far into parenting but far enough to realize that there is no such thing as perfection. Finding that happy balance between being married and parenting those little humans is a hard thing to do. I just thought I would share a few little tips with you, my beautiful readers, on what has helped us so far in our marriage/parenting balancing act.

  1.  Date night. I know you have heard this one over and over but there is a reason it is constantly mentioned. Dating your spouse is so important. My Oma once told me that a “couple who play together, stay together.” I know she didn’t make that up but it will always be wisdom that  I will relate to her. Spending time getting to listen and be heard from the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with is very important. Having fun and doing things you both enjoy can seriously make you feel human again. Children are draining and it is really hard to be a good parent if you are drained.
  2. Team work. My husband and I grew up in completely different families. So that being said we approach parenting a little differently too. In the heat of the moment most parents resort back to how they were raised when dealing with their children. I may not always agree with my husbands way of doing things but my children will never know that. We stand as a united front in their presence and then when they are out of ear shot or, in most cases when they are sleeping, we discuss how we would have done it differently and then come up with a new plan. This has worked wonders on our relationship and also on our confidence as parents. We are new to this whole parenting thing and we need as much encouragement as our children do. There is nothing like having your spouse stand by your side when you are putting your foot down as a parent to encourage you in this very intimidating role of raising the adults of our future.
  3. The Importance of who came first. I don’t know about you, but our children think they are the reason we live and breath. They came with the impression that our lives didn’t start until they entered out lives. I am always amused by the looks on their faces when I tell them stories of me as a kid or of our first date or even showed them our wedding video. “Where was I Mom?” is the common question heard every time a story is told that they are not the star of. We take moments like these to let them know that they are a result of a beautiful story that didn’t start with them or end with them but had a bunch of adventures that involves them. When we are going on dates and leaving them with a sitter and they are not too happy about it, we remind them that it is important for Mommy and Daddy to have time to remember why we fell in love. Just like they have play dates with their friends it is important for us to have dates with each other.

So those are just a few of the tips I have when it comes to marriage and parenting but I also wanted to touch on another relationship that changes when you have kids and that is your Friendships.

This is more of a big deal for some people than it is for others and in my experience it all comes down to two factors: 1. are you the first in your friend circle to have kids?  and 2. do you have a lot of friends?

The changes you experience will be affected by your answers to those two questions. For me, I was one of the first to have kids in my friendship circles and I do have a lot of friends.

It is interesting looking back now, as I am almost 6 years into parenting, and seeing the change in some of my friendships. I have lost a few, due to lack of time and common interests, I have gained a few due to similar life stages and parenting syles. It is this last group that I would love to focus on. That group of  “Pre-parenting” friends that seem to stand the test of time. Or not.

Friendships that move with you through the ages and stages are the ones in my life that I treasure the most. I have a few that I have known since elementary days and some that have started in university. They were there when I got married and joined me as I welcomed our two little humans into our lives. They brought presents and meals and did their very best to understand this new stage that I was entering into, with out them.

So now that we know which friends I am referring to I wanted to take a minute to talk about how we keep these friendships. I really believe that these friendships play a vital role in our lives both as we grow as parents and as individuals. They are important for us to keep as they provide a balance in our worlds. Parenting is a time consuming job and somethings having a person who can pull you out of that bubble is a very good thing. Here are a few things that I have found help me when trying to balance friendships and parenting:

  1. Inviting Them into your new Adventure. I remember life before I had kids and I would hear my friends or family, who had children already, tell me how I would “understand one day” what they were going through. I would also have no idea what to even do when I was around them. Something I found worked really well was when I asked my friends without kids for help. I asked for their advice and was totally honest with them on what was going on in my life. Instead of acting like I was all of a sudden and expert on babies, because i really wasn’t. I asked for their ideas or just shared my frustrations. We who have children, know that each day is whole new territory. We are constantly learning and our children are constantly changing. So not pretending we are experts and inviting our friends along for the ride is one huge thing that can help in making them feel more included in this new stage of life. It can also help gain you some empathy.
  2.  Kid Free Time alone as friends. Girl nights have been great for both me and my friends. The most important thing to remember is to minimize the amount of stories you share about your children. When hanging out with someone who doesn’t have children I have noticed that they can only take so many stories about poopy diapers and picky eaters. It is not realistic for them to expect you to not talk about those little loves of your lives when you are away from them, but it is also not really fun to sit there and listen to you complain on and on about how tired you are because your baby was up 10 times last night and your toddler peed the bed.  Be aware that you listen to what is happening in your friends life as well. Be cautious of making comments like “I forget what sleep feels like, must be nice” or “oh what I would give to have a kid free night.” If you take the time to listen, so will they. They will become a safe place for you and you will be that safe place for them. Besides, these friendships will become the most valuable when you need someone to baby sit. Friends with children can be a little useless sometimes!
  3. Be Honest With Boundaries. When I first had children my friends without kids just didn’t understand the importance of bed time. They weren’t sleep deprived or up all night and the magical hour of 7 pm meant nothing to them. So when we had finally established a consistent bedtime with my children it became an issue when my friends either didn’t respect my need to be home until 7 pm or in some cases made me feel silly for wanting to keep a consistent routine with my children. You know what your boundaries are and they need you to be honest about it. Communicating with them that this is only for a short season in your life, while your children are little and soon you will have more “freedom”, is something that I found really helped. Also, just being honest when you are tired and just need to cancel is fine too. Just don’t cancel all the time. Sometimes its good to push yourself and get out of the house even if you are covered in spit up and have only slept 6 hours in the past 48.

It takes a Village to raise a family. Mom, dad and child need the support of other people in their lives. Friends and family play vital roles. All people involved in the family unit need to be encouraged. Finding your place, setting your boundaries, and prioritizing your relationships and time spent with each person is what helps make for a more balanced life. Support can come from anyone but also remembering that you have the ability to be their for others and not just for your children is important too. Being apart of a Village doesn’t only mean that you receive but it also means that you give.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic. How do you balance parenting and your relationships? Lets keep this discussion going and not stop the dialogue. Honest communication in all our relationships will help make for some pretty healthy friendships. And what better way to teach our children how to be a good friend then to show them what it looks like.

 

-Lioness

 

THE WINNER IS…..

Check each of the features to find out who won what giveaway! be sure to read how these ladies got started and how they balance life with a small business

 

thanks everyone who entered on facebook,instagram and commenting on our blog posts 🙂

 

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!

Mother's Day Feature #5- Lena Shaw


Tell us a little bit about your family and how long you have had your business up and running?

My husband and I have two little girls, Monroe (4) and Selma (2). We met on our first day of going to University in Victoria and the rest is history. I started Mosie’s Cozies 4 years ago when I was on maternity leave with Monroe.

What was the inspiration behind starting your own business?

As soon as Monroe was born, I immediately started making her headbands. She got lots of compliments when we were out and about each day, so I decided to start selling them out of my stroller when we were at the park, at the grocery store, etc.

What is your favorite part about running your own business?

Running my own business has allowed me to be home with my girls. It’s been so nice to be with them during these precious times of being little. It certainly goes by quick!

When do you find time to fit in work? Do you have a Nanny, childcare, or house cleaner? How do you balance it all?

I am lucky to have both my parents, as well as my husband’s parents who each help at least one day a week. I also have an amazing friend (who also is a nurse, who also is my headband seamstress) who watches the girls once a week. I also try to fill orders during naptime, as well as on weekends when my husband is home to help. I don’t usually work when I have the kids myself during the days where it is just me because I can’t give myself fully to my kids, or my work. It’s a tough one to balance.

What was the greatest advice you have received since becoming a parent or since starting your own business that has helped you?

With parenting, I’ve found that you can read all of the books, and articles there are out there but until you are in it and are experiencing it yourself, you don’t fully know how it will all go. There are so many different parenting styles, and all babies and kids are unique. Do things the way you feel are right, and all will work out. With the business, it’s definitely a learn as you go experience. I have connected with so many other small business owners, who give advice and share what works and what doesn’t. I think the best way to keep going is asking for help when you need it.

What has been your greatest hurdle when it comes to running your own business and raising your family? Definitely finding the balance and trying to figure out the most efficient way to get things done. How do you balance your other relationships in your life (such as friends, parents, partner?) If there is anything, I make time for my relationships. It has always been important to me and I’ve always kept it a priority to keep these up. I work really hard when it’s my “work” day, and try to turn it off when I’m “off”.

What did you want to be when you were younger?

I always wanted to be a cleaning lady when I was young. I remember staying at hotels with my family and desperately wanted one of those cleaning carts!

What careers have you had I the past that led to where you are today?

I’m actually a school teacher in the Surrey School District and recently have gone back to subbing. I’ve taken an extended (2 year leave) to focus on my business and am excited to be going back once a week in the fall.

What advice would you give someone just starting out?

Take it day by day, week by week, and month by month. Don’t allow yourself to get caught up in the world of social media, however, allow yourself to grow by using it. Make connections, ask for help, and find those friends who pick you up and support you.

What would your dream Mother’s Day look like?

Sleeping in and waking up to sunshine! Spending time with my little family and eating delicious food together without any distractions (from work haha).

 

WINNER IS—— SANDRA NEMETH!- congrats mama

Blue Owl Designs- Taylor and Sydney

You don’t need to be a mother to be a part of our mother’s day feature week. These two ladies have got me addicted to there instafeed and I LOVE wearing my Pray Each Day sweater from Blue Owl Designs. Please read, share, and go check out Instagram to win a t-shirt and earrings from Taylor and Sydney!

Name: Blue Owl Designs (Taylor & Sydney)
Small Business Product:
Where can we find you?
Instagram: @blueowldesigns
Facebook: @blueowldesignsx
Website: http://www.blueowldesigns.net
Others: n/a

Tell us a little bit about your family and how long you have had your business up and running?

We started this little business of ours five years ago, when Taylor was just starting nursing school, and Sydney was graduating and working towards getting into the nursing program. We thought it was a great way to have a creative outlet while working through such a tough program. It was always fun during school to sit down together, and get away from all the hustle and bustle of school. Taylor is now graduated, and Sydney has just completed her second year of nursing. Although Taylor is working as a registered nurse, and Sydney is still trucking on through the final two years of her nursing program, we continue to create these unique pieces.
What was the inspiration behind starting your own business?
Although we love providing care in our community through nursing, we wanted to be able to create things that touched lives in a different creative way.



What is your favorite part about running your own at home business?

With Taylor now being married and out of the house, it is a great reason to get together and come up with cool pieces that we both love. We also love communicating with our customers and stockists, as they have been very supportive of our small business. We love working for ourselves, and not to mention always having some new jewelry and clothing.

Which house hold chores do you detest?
We collectively both detest doing dishes and laundry! With nursing school and being a registered nurse, it’s sometimes hard to come home after a long day and say “Hey! Let’s do some dishes after this 12-hour night shift!”. With that being said, we somehow seem to get them done.

What was the greatest advice you have received since starting your own business that has helped you?
What has been your greatest hurdle when it comes to running your own business and raising your family?
The biggest hurdle would be lack of time and scheduling. Between our different schooling and work schedules, the business sometimes gets a little hectic with packaging, social media and designing new product. Taylor fortunately recently married her high school sweetheart who is really supportive with her crazy schedule. Sydney is in a long-term and long-distant relationship with her high-school sweetheart too, who is very supportive with our small business as well.

How do you balance your other relationships in your life (such as friends, parents, partner?)
What we try to do is get our orders wrapped and shipped all in one day. We also try to stay on top of stock, making several earrings at once allowing us to be set for our future orders. Staying organized and planning ahead for busy order times allows us to have spare time to spend with our family and friends on the weekend. We leave most of our evenings and weekends for family or friend time to try to maintain a healthy balance.

What did you want to be when you were younger?
Sydney: When I was younger I dreamed of designing wedding and other formal dresses.
Taylor: Ever since I was young, I dreamed of being a nurse.
We both have also always wanted to have a few children, and still can’t wait to start families of our own.
What careers have you had I the past that led to where you are today?

What advice would you give someone just starting out?
Our greatest advice on starting a business would be to try to build yourselves on social media outlets, such as facebook and Instagram. That’s how we really started to brand ourselves, as well as got our customers attention. Be unique, be bold, and don’t give up. Small businesses are like a little family. They’re always there for your support, so don’t hesitate to reach out for some advice. Also, put yourself out there, don’t hold back when an opportunity is presented.

What is the greatest gift you have ever received?
We each were given cars on our 16th birthday! It was amazing and super thoughtful of our grandparents and parents.

 

Thank you for participating in our Mother’s day Feature ladies! go to our Instagram to find out how to win these items below!

 

WINNER IS——— KIMNORCROSS– congrats!

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